Online Resources for Parents

 

IFAPA Resources

 

RESOURCES AVAILABLE ON IFAPA'S WEBSITE
TRAINING:
Current Training Schedule | CPR & First Aid Classes | Mandatory Reporter Classes
Medication Management | Reasonable and Prudent Parent Standard Training (RPPS)
HIV Training | IFAPA Conferences | Social Worker CEU Classes |
Support Group Trainings | Online Trainings | Other Trainings | Foster Parent Training Report
FORMS:
DHS Forms for Foster Parents | Adoption Respite Form | Friends of Children in Care Forms
SUPPORT:
IFAPA Peer Liaisons | IFAPA Resource Information Specialist | Support Group Locations
FAIR (Abuse Allegations) Program | Clothing Closets | Foster Home Insurance Fund
DHS PAYMENTS:
DHS Foster Family Maintenance Rates
DHS Foster Care Maintenance & Adoption Subsidy Payment Schedule
PUBLICATIONS:
DHS Foster Parent Handbook | IFAPA Newsletters | IFAPA Publications | Lifebook Pages

 

Attachment & Bonding

 

CARING FOR CHILDREN WITH ATTACHMENT ISSUES
Building Connections with Your Foster / Adoptive Child
Forming a Healthy Attachment with Your Baby
(Source: BuildingYourFamily.com)
When Adopted Toddlers Reject Their Parents
(Source: RainbowKids.com)
Healing from Food Insecurity: Beyond the Stash
(Source: North American Council on Adoptable Children)
Parental Openness Can Help Children Learn to Trust
(Source: North American Council on Adoptable Children)
Retrace Developmental Stages to Help Older Children Heal
(Source: North American Council on Adoptable Children)
Reactive Attachment Disorder: A New Understanding
Source: Beyond Consequences Institute)
Developing Emotional Attachments in Adopted Children
(Source: AttachmentParenting.org)
Top Ten Tips for the First Year of Placement
(Source: DeborahGray.com)
Attachment and Trauma Articles
(Source: Adoption Today Magazine)

 

Becoming a Foster or Adoptive Parent

 

LEARN MORE ABOUT THE PROCESS /
VIEW CHILDREN WAITING TO BE ADOPTED
Iowa KidsNet (Foster Parenting in Iowa or Adopting from Iowa's Foster Care System)
DHS Foster Parent Handbook
View Iowa Children Waiting to be Adopted
Iowa Association of Adoption Agencies
AdoptUSKids (National Photolisting Website for Children Awaiting Adoption)

 

Behaviors

 

PARENTING CHILDREN WITH CHALLENGING BEHAVIORS
Your Child is Misbehaving, Are You Listening?
(Source: Heather T. Forbes)
Lying: Why and What to Do about It (Part 1)
Lying: Why and What to Do about It (Part 2)
(Source: FosterParentCollege.com)
The Seven Wonders of Adoption (Behavior Issues Related to Separation from Birth Family)
(Source: FosterParentCollege.com)
Foster Children and Cruelty to Animals (Part 1)
Foster Children and Cruelty to Animals (Part 2)
(Source: FosterParentCollege.com)
Help! My Child Runs Away
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth and Families - Wisconsin)
Effective Management of Crisis Behavior
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth and Families - Wisconsin)
Managing Meltdowns - A Cool Down Chart for Kids
(Source: Iowa Foster & Adoptive Parents Association)
OTHER HELPFUL WEBSITES:
Love and Logic (Join the Insider’s E-mail Club for weekly free tips on strengthening your relationships with the kids in your life)

 

Birth Family Relationships

 

NAVIGATING BIRTH FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS
Tips for Helping Children and Teens Before and After Visitation
(Source: Healthy Foster Care America)
Talking to Your Children about Their Birth Parents
(Source: Coalition for Children Youth & Families - Wisconsin)
Impact of Adoption on Birth Parents
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)
Openness in Adoption: Building Relationships Between Adoptive and Birth Families
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)
Facilitated Openness Can Benefit Children Adopted from Care
(Source: North American Council on Adoptable Children)
Resource Parents Partnering with Birth Parents to Benefit Children
(Source: Iowa Foster & Adoptive Parents Association)
Completing the Circle: Uncovering, Discovering, and Creating Connections for Your Foster and Adoptive Children (Source: Iowa Foster & Adoptive Parents Association)
Raising Relatives' Children
(Source: Iowa Foster & Adoptive Parents Association)
Searching for Birth Relatives
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)
Free Lifebook Pages
(Source: Iowa Foster & Adoptive Parents Association)

 

Discussing Adoption with Your Child

 

STARTING AND CONTINUING THE ADOPTION DISCUSSION
When to Tell Your Child about Their Adoption
(Source: American Academy of Pediatrics)
Talking to Your Child about Adoption
(Source: American Academy of Pediatrics)
Talking to Your Child about Adoption - Recommendations for Parents
(Source: National Council for Adoption)
Answering Your Adopted Child's Questions about Birth Parents
(Source: American Academy of Pediatrics)
Talking to Your Teen about Being Adopted
(Source American Academy of Pediatrics)
Talking with Your Adopted Teen: It's Possible and Important
(Source: North American Council on Adoptable Children)
Answering Strangers Questions about Adoption
(Source: RainbowKids.com)
Collecting Your Adoptive Child's History (A Workbook for Parents Adopting Older Children)
(Source: DePaul Family Services)
7 Ways to Give Your Child a History
(Source: Gregory C. Keck, Ph.D. & Regina M. Kupecky, LSW)
Free Lifebook Pages
(Source: Iowa Foster & Adoptive Parents Association)
Foster Care and Adoption-Friendly Books
(Source: Iowa Foster & Adoptive Parents Association)

 

Education / School

 

EDUCATION AND SCHOOL-RELATED RESOURCES
Educator Making a Difference for Students - Adoption, Foster Care and Kinship Care in the School Setting
View IFAPA Trainings Related to Education and the Schools
Creating Trauma-Informed Classrooms
(Source: National Council for Adoption)
Child Trauma Toolkit for Educators
(Source: The National Child Traumatic Stress Network)
10 Things About Trauma Every Teacher Needs to Know
(Source WeAreTeachers.com)
Helping Classmates Understand Adoption (A School Handout)
(Source: Adoptive Families Magazine)
Parenting Coach Tool (Managing social, emotional and behavioral challenges)
(Source: Understood.org)
Through Your Child's Eyes Tool (Unique simulations and videos to better understand your child's special needs) (Source: Understood.org)
A (Sample) Letter to My Child's Teacher about Reactive Attachment Disorder
(Source: Mommyhood: Striving for Sanity)
Educating About RAD
(Source: Serenity Link Coaching)
Understanding Individualized Education Programs (IEPs)
(Source:Understood.org)
College Planning Resources

 

Financial Resources for Parents & Youth

 

FINANCIAL RESOURCES FOR PARENTS AND/OR YOUTH
DHS Foster Family Care Daily Rates
(Source: Iowa Department of Human Services)
Payment Schedule for Iowa DHS Foster Care Maintenance Payments & Adoption Subsidy Payments (Source: Iowa Department of Human Services)
DHS Foster Care Clothing Allowance
(Source: Iowa Department of Human Services)
DHS Check Payment Codes
(Source: Iowa Department of Human Services)
Foster Home Insurance Fund
(Source: Iowa Department of Human Services)
Medicaid Reimbursement for Non-Emergency Medical Transportation (TMS)
Non-Emergency Medical Transportation Transition Update (Posted March 4, 2016)
Friends of Children in Foster Care Program
Clothing Closets that Serve Iowa Foster Families
Adoption Respite
Navigating Iowa's Adoption Subsidy Program
(Source: Iowa Foster and Adoptive Parents Association)
Financial Support for Youth Transitioning from Foster Care to Adulthood
College Scholarship Opportunities for Youth
Families Helping Families of Iowa
iFoster - Discount Program Available to Foster Youth, Foster/Adoptive/Kinship Families

 

Human Trafficking

 

RESOURCES FOR PARENTS AND/OR YOUTH
National Human Trafficking Resource Center Hotline (24/7) 1-888-373-7888
Network Against Human Trafficking
Braking Traffik - Stopping Sexual Exploitation in the Quad Cities Area
Polaris Project
Operation Underground Railroad
Not For Sale Campaign
End Slavery Now

 

International Adoption

 

PARENTING CHILDREN WHO WERE ADOPTED INTERNATIONALLY
Internationally Adopted Children - Important Information for Parents
(Source: American Academy of Pediatrics)
Checklist for International Travel
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth & Families - Wisconsin)
Orphanage Care: When Your Child Comes Home (What to Expect After Adoption)
(Source: RainbowKids.com)
Become an Advocate for Your Child's Education (International Adoption)
(Source: RainbowKids.com)

 

New Foster or Adoptive Placements

 

HELPING A CHILD TRANSITION TO A FOSTER OR ADOPTIVE HOME
(& PREPARING YOUR FAMILY FOR THE TRANSITION)
FosterCub - Free Coloring Pages for Kids Just Entering Foster Care
(Source: FosterClub.com)
Pre-Placement Questionnaire for Foster Parents
(Source: Iowa Foster & Adoptive Parents Association)
Welcoming a Child or Teen into Your Foster Home
(Source: American Academy of Pediatrics)
Establishing Household Rules
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth & Families – Wisconsin)
Helping Your Foster Child Transition to Your Adopted Child
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)
Touchpoints: Preparing Children for Transitions
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth & Families - Wisconsin)
Adopting Older Children - Keys to Easing Adjustment (When Adopting Older Children from Foster Care)
Preparing the Kids in Your Home for Fostering
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth & Families – Wisconsin)
What to Teach Your Child to Prepare Them for a Foster or Adoptive Sibling
Free Welcome Book Pages
(Source: Iowa Foster & Adoptive Parents Association)
Welcome Home Books: Building Connections
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth & Families - Wisconsin)

 

Parenting Transracially

 

RACIAL & CULTURAL IDENTITY
Transracial Parenting in Foster Care and Adoption: Strengthening Your Bicultural Family
(Source: Iowa Foster & Adoptive Parents Association)
Honoring Your Child's Racial and Cultural Identity
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth and Families - Wisconsin)
Twenty Ideas for Keeping Connections to Racial and Cultural Identity
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth and Families - Wisconsin)
Race and Identity in Transracial Adoption: Suggestions for Adoption Parents
(Source: National Council for Adoption)
Parenting a Child of a Different Race
(Source: NC Division of Social Services and the Family and Children's Resource Program)
Raising a Child of Color in America...While White
(Source: Adoptive Families)
To the White Parents of My Black Son's Friends
(Source: Maralee Bradley)
Bringing Heritage Home
Guide to Exploring African American Culture
(Source: Penn State)
Hair and Skin Care for African American and Biracial Children
Hair Matters - African Hair Care Styling Tips
(Source: RainbowKids.com)
Caring for the Hair of Your African American Child
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth and Families - Wisconsin)
I'll Make Me a World in Iowa African American Festival (held in Des Moines every January)
Celebrasian - Asian Heritage Festival (held in Des Moines every May)
Iowa's Latino Heritage Festival (held in Des Moines every September)
African American Museum of Iowa (Cedar Rapids, IA)

 

Parenting Various Ages

 

PARENTING CHILDREN OF VARIOUS AGES
Forming a Healthy Attachment with Your Baby
(Source: BuildingYourFamily.com)
When Adopted Toddlers Reject Their Parents
(Source: RainbowKids.com)
SIDS - Back to Sleep for Babies in Foster Care: Every Time, with Every Caregiver
(Source: American Academy of Pediatrics)
Parenting Your Adopted Preschooler
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)
By the Grace of Foster Parents: Fostering Preschool Age Children
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth & Families – Wisconsin)
Parenting Your Adopted School-Age Child
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)
Parenting Your Adopted Teenager
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)
Help Me to Succeed - A Guide for Supporting Youth in Foster Care to Prevent Teen Pregnancy
(Source: The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy)
Depression in Teens Who Were Adopted: What Families Need to Know
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth & Families – Wisconsin)
How to Resolve Conflicts with Your Teen
(Source: American Academy of Pediatrics)
OTHER HELPFUL WEBSITES:
Zero to Three - National Center for Infants, Toddlers and Families
Early ACCESS Iowa
KidsHealth.org
Josh Shipp (Teen Expert/Former Foster Child)

 

Sibling Relationships

 

DEVELOPING & MAINTAINING SIBLING RELATIONSHIPS
Keeping Siblings Connected - How to Build and Maintain Sibling Connections When Placed Separately
Brothers and Sisters: Keeping Siblings in Foster Care Connected (video)
Sibling Issues in Foster Care and Adoption
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)
Sibling Conflict in Adoptive Families
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth & Families – Wisconsin)
Adoption and Sibling Rivalry
(Source: American Academy of Pediatrics)
Preparing the Kids in Your Home for Fostering
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth & Families – Wisconsin)
What to Teach Your Child to Prepare Them for a Foster or Adoptive Sibling

 

Support for Youth

 

Support for Foster or Adoptive Youth
Friends of Children in Foster Care Program (IFAPA)
Families Helping Families - Spread Your Wings
AMP (Achieving Maximum Potential)
Iowa Aftercare Services Network
Iowa Foster Child and Youth Bill of Rights
Transitioning to Adulthood (Additional Iowa Resources)
College Planning/Scholarships
FosterClub
Camillia Network

 

Transitioning to Adulthood

 

TRANSITIONING FROM FOSTER CARE TO ADULTHOOD
Iowa Aftercare Services Network
FosterClub's Transition (to Adulthood) Toolkit
(Source: FosterClub.com)
Things People Never Told Me (Advice for Youth Aging Out of Foster Care)
It's Transition Time - Don't Leave Foster Care Without These 21 Things
(Source: FosterClub.com)
Permanency Pact (life-long, kin-like connections between a youth and a supportive adult)
(Source: FosterClub.com)
Preparing for My Transition to Adulthood
Helping Youth Transition to Adulthood: Guidance for Foster Parents
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)
Supporting Youth Who Transition Out of the Foster Care System at Age 18
(Source: Coalition for Children Youth & Families - Wisconsin)
Free Life Skills Training from Vstreet
DMACC - Connecting Young Adults Program (serving students who were in foster care)
The Guardian Scholars Foundation (A scholarship & support program for youth who spent time in Iowa's foster care system between the ages of 14-18)
Telling Your Money What to Do - The Young Adult's Guide to Budgeting Their Money
OTHER HELPFUL WEBSITES:
Camellia Network

 

Trauma (Abuse, Neglect, PTSD, Sexual Abuse)

 

PARENTING TRAUMATIZED CHILDREN
Food and Eating Issues and Children in Foster Care
(Blank Children's Hospital - Regional Child Protection Center)
What is Child Traumatic Stress
(Source: The National Child Traumatic Stress Network)
Age-Related Reaction to a Traumatic Event
(Source: The National Child Traumatic Stress Network)
Complex Trauma in Children and Adolescents
(Source: The National Child Traumatic Stress Network)
Trauma Doesn't Tell Time
(Source: Gobbel Counseling)
A Different Home: A Time of Trauma and Loss for Foster Children
(Source: Dr John DeGarmo)
Working with Children Who Have Been Traumatized
(Source: Coalition for Children, Youth and Families - Wisconsin)
Supporting Brain Development in Traumatized Children and Youth
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)
Parenting After Trauma: Understanding Your Child's Needs
(Source: American Academy of Pediatrics)
How Can Trauma Affect My Young Child
(Source: University of Minnesota - College of Education and Human Development)
Finding Hope After Trauma: The Remarkable Recovery of the Adolescent Brain
Ambiguous Loss Haunts Foster and Adopted Children
(Source: North American Council on Adoptable Children)
PTSD: Thinking about the Adoptee's Trauma
(Source: ABC of Ohio)
PTSD in Children and Adolescents
He Won't Remember - Children and PTSD
(Source: Jolene Philo)
Helping Foster and Adoptive Families Cope with Trauma: A Guide for Pediatricians
(Source: American Academy of Pediatrics)
Understanding Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)
The Truth about ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and Possible Risk Outcomes
The Toll of Aces (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and Their Effect on Lifelong Health
Long-Term Consequences of Child Abuse and Neglect
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)
Supporting Maltreated Children: Countering the Effects of Neglect and Abuse
(Source: National Council for Adoption)
My Body Belongs to Me (an animated short film to educate children about sexual abuse)
How and When to Talk to Your Child About Sexual Abuse
(Source: Psychology Today)
Parenting a Child Who has been Sexually Abused: A Guide for Foster and Adoptive Parents
(Source: Child Welfare Information Gateway)

 

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